“We should not moor a ship with one anchor, or our life with one hope.” 

 ~ Epictetus

Just that phrase, “A big fish in a small pond,” has negative connotations. It’s typically aimed at someone as a critical or insulting remark. Maybe we should rethink that position. 

Life is about experiences, and in many ways, a small pond allows for more of those experiences. There is simply less competition on the playing field in a small pond, so you get to try more things. Here’s a list of a few roles either myself or my wife has played in our small pond. Conductor of the town band, school board member, hospital foundation board member, mayor, sheltered workshop board member, starter of small businesses, and subdivision developer. Had we lived in a city of 900,000 instead of 9,000, it’s unlikely that we would have had this many different and varied experiences. Each of these opportunities has taught us much and we’re better for them.

No one can have or be on a huge scale without sacrifice and trade off. Great political leaders, mega-wealthy individuals, a top salesperson means for many that something else was sacrificed (possibilities include time, family, health, or marriage). 

We are a size-possessed culture and constantly comparing ourselves to others. True success means setting boundaries then living accordingly. That is success and a happier life. What on the surface may seem more mediocre can actually be your best life. Do your own thinking. So, the next time you’re critical of yourself for not playing in the “big leagues”, remind yourself that size is not everything. For me, it’s about varied experiences, having time for loved ones, and the opportunity to get a life. If this chapter speaks to you, read “David and Goliath” by Malcolm Gladwell. His insight and conclusion are both amazing and helpful.

“Don’t worry when you are not recognized, but strive to be worthy of recognition.”  ~ Abraham Lincoln